The Solemn Sir

When your to-do list feels unmanageable, put the tasks in one place, identify real deadlines, choose a few priorities and schedule their next steps. Give lower-priority tasks an explicit “later” or “drop” decision so they stop competing with everything else. You can be busy all week and still feel like the important stuff is untouched.

Start with one question about what is happening in your life. Write a few honest sentences, then ask what you need or what you want to do next. You do not need a profound insight, a perfect routine or a page full of polished words. A blank page can feel like another thing you are

A men’s group is a space where men come together for honest conversation, support, accountability, and real connection. By Andre Clayton, founder of The Solemn Sir and organizer of an online men’s discussion group. Updated October 18, 2026. Key takeaways Men’s groups differ: peer conversation, shared activities, coaching, and therapist-led groups serve different needs. Ask

Good men’s group discussion topics give men a specific, open-ended question about real life: work, relationships, friendship, family, identity or purpose. Start with a simple check-in, choose one topic, and let each man decide how much to share. This is a library of 50 questions for peer groups, online conversations and small gatherings of friends.

Let’s stop pretending there isn’t a problem. Men are lonely as hell, and most guys know it even if they don’t say it out loud. We have more technology, more apps, more ways to talk, and more ways to scroll than any generation before us. Yet millions of men do not have a handful of

Where are we as men? What are we thinking? I think a lot of us put up bars and jail ourselves from feeling most of anything. We close ourselves off from experiences and people who could have enriched our lives, and then we call that strength. We tell ourselves we are being disciplined, focused, or

There is a kind of man who says he is done with society. He is done with women, done with dating, done with work culture, done with being expected to perform, provide, compete, tolerate, and keep showing up for a world that he believes has given him nothing in return. He may call it peace.