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A Private Community for Men Who Carry Too Much

The Solemn Sir is a structured membership community for men who are tired of handling everything alone.

No hype.
No performance.
No coaching tiers.

Just real conversation with men who understand responsibility.

Start with 7 days of full access.

$19/month if you decide to stay.

Most Men Don’t Lack Strength. They Lack Support.

They handle work.
They handle relationships.
They handle pressure.

But they rarely have a place where they can speak honestly without having to prove anything.

This community exists to change that.

What Membership Includes

What You Get Inside

Membership gives you:

• A private men-only forum
• A customizable profile for easy connection with guys who get it (including HD video calls and messaging)
• Weekly structured discussion prompts
• One live group call or online meetup each month
• Ongoing conversations that go deeper than surface talk
• Direct access to Gavin AI for private reflection anytime

You can participate actively or observe quietly at first.

There is no pressure to impress anyone.

This Is For You If

• You carry responsibility but rarely talk about it
• You feel steady on the outside but stretched underneath
• You want real conversation instead of noise
• You are tired of pretending everything is fine

This is not a movement.
It is a community.

Simple and Direct

Start with 7 days of full access.
Your card is required to begin. You won’t be charged unless you stay past day 7.
Membership continues at $19 per month.
Cancel anytime.

No contracts. No tiers. No upsells.

You Don’t Have to Carry Everything Alone.

If you’re ready for a real community, start your 7 days and see if it fits.

Real Stories From Men Who Chose Connection

“Working with Andre helped me break the cycle of isolation I had been stuck in for years. He did not push advice on me. He helped me slow down and understand what I truly wanted. That shift alone changed the direction of my life.”

“The Solemn Sir helped me feel connected again. I did not expect to find a group of men who actually understand what I go through, but I did.”

“When I started coaching with Andre, I felt lost and unsure of myself. I had no idea how to build real relationships. Andre helped me see what was holding me back and guided me in a way that felt supportive and honest. I started showing up differently, and people noticed. I am dating again and I feel more confident than I have in years.”

“The Solemn Sir is the first place where I felt safe enough to talk about what I was really feeling. The men here show up for each other. It feels good to have that kind of support.”

“Andre asked the kind of questions that made me think in ways I never had before. I became more honest with myself and with the people in my life. My relationships feel healthier now because of the work we did together.”

“I did not realize how heavy life had become until I joined The Solemn Sir. I spent years keeping everything to myself. The community gave me a place to talk, to connect, and to feel understood without judgment. It reminded me that I am not as alone as I thought, and that has made a real difference in how I move through my days.”

“I came to The Solemn Sir looking for direction. Andre helped me rediscover my strength and take real steps toward the life I want. I feel more grounded and more hopeful than I did before.”

What Men are Reading Now

Stay connected with the conversations shaping our community. Here you will find the most read articles on The Solemn Sir, from raw reflections on men’s mental health to thought provoking takes on fatherhood, relationships, and the challenges of modern life.

Most Men Are Afraid of Women. Yeah, I Said It.

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Let’s just be honest about something most guys won’t say out loud. A lot of men are afraid of women. Not physically afraid. Not hiding in the closet afraid. I’m talking about that subtle, nervous, approval-chasing fear that shows up in how they act. You see it everywhere once you

Senior man looks away from an unemployment notice on a computer screen indoors.

Are Older Workers Being Pushed Out? A Middle-Aged Man’s Honest Take on Ageism and AI

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I’ve been in marketing for over sixteen years. That’s long enough to see trends cycle, strategies rebranded as innovation, and companies swear they’ve “cracked the culture code” more times than I can count. And I can tell you this: something has shifted. It’s not loud. No one walks into a

Two elderly men having fun playing video games on the couch.

How to Make Friends as a Man (When You’re Out of Practice)

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Making friends as an adult man isn’t hard because you’re broken. It’s hard because life got heavier. Work expanded. Responsibilities multiplied. Time shrank. The built-in environments that used to create friendships, school, sports teams, dorm rooms, first jobs, quietly disappeared. And without realizing it, many men wake up one day

Where Men's Truths Take the Mic

Watch our latest videos and explore the unfiltered realities of modern manhood through real struggles, honest reflections, and moments of personal growth.

When do red flags stop being red flags… and start becoming excuses?

A female coworker was trashing her ex, calling him a “man child.” But when I asked what the first warning sign was, the story got interesting.

On their very first date, he brought his best friend because he was nervous.

Not joking.

And instead of walking away, she let it slide. Not because it made sense. But because she believed, “That’s just how men are.”

That mindset is the real issue.

In this video, we talk about:

Why early red flags matter

How toxic expectations about men and women get normalized

The danger of blaming “the patriarchy” instead of personal decisions

Why accountability beats resentment every time

Sometimes growth starts with asking a simple question:
Why did you ignore what was obvious?

Let’s talk about it.

#DatingAdvice #ModernRelationships #RedFlags #Accountability #MenAndWomen #RelationshipTruth #SelfRespect

He Brought His Best Friend on a First Date… and She Still Stayed?

Are you actually bad at communicating with women… but blaming them instead?

A lot of men claim women are the problem. They say women are dramatic. Emotional. Impossible to talk to. They say, “When I open up, it gets used against me.” But the truth is, most men don’t actually communicate. They shut down. They deflect. They get defensive. Or they melt down like toddlers when emotions enter the room.

And then they call communication “effeminate.”

In this video, we break down the uncomfortable reality:
Most men aren’t misunderstood. They’re underdeveloped when it comes to communication.

That doesn’t just affect romantic relationships.
It affects friendships. Careers. Leadership. Mental health. Everything.

If you can’t communicate, you can’t connect.
If you can’t connect, you isolate.
And the “lone wolf” myth? In nature, lone wolves don’t thrive — they die.

This isn’t about attacking men. It’s about leveling up.
Communication is a skillset. And like any skill, it can be developed.

If you want better relationships, better influence, better opportunities — this is where it starts.

If you’re serious about building confidence, connection, and real brotherhood:

🔹 Join the community: https://solemnsir.com

#relationshipadvice #relationshipadvice101 #relationshiptips #mensgrowth #menswellness

Are You a Chump With Women? Most Men Suck at Communication (And Don’t Know It)

Corporate America is investing billions into AI.
But what does that really mean for experienced workers?

In this video, we break down the uncomfortable reality:

• Ageism in corporate environments
• Why experienced employees command higher salaries
• The pressure to “train the machine” with your knowledge
• The illusion of replacing wisdom with automation
• Why younger workers are underpaid but over-expected
• Why financial independence is no longer optional

This is not anti-technology.
This is about understanding incentives.

If companies can replace high-salary, experienced professionals with cheaper labor or automation, many will.

The real question becomes:
What is your exit strategy?

For men who refuse to grow alone — and refuse to be quietly phased out — this conversation matters.

Join The Solemn Sir community for grounded conversations about work, identity, purpose, and building strength in uncertain times.

AI, Ageism & Corporate America: Why Experienced Men Are Being Phased Out